This is a follow-up to the recently posted "Yoni Massage" 
and is the male version of the Tantric/Sacred Sexuality 
pleasuring technique. Enjoy.

The Lingam Massage

BACKGROUND INFO:

The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam 
(pronounced LING-AHM, [LING rhymes with sing]) and  
is loosely translated as "Wand of Light."  It's meaning is 
different in intention from the typical Western view of the 
penis (i.e., Cock, Prick, Dong, Dick, etc., words that may 
come from a limited perspective, depending on the intent of 
their usage). In Tantra/Sacred Sexuality, the Lingam is 
respectfully viewed and honored,  a "Wand of Light" that 
channels creative energy and pleasure. 

The purpose of the Lingam Massage is to create a space the 
receiver to relax, and receive expanded pleasure from his 
Lingam. His partner (the giver) experiences the joy of 
facilitating and witnessing the man surrendering to his 
softer, gentler side. The Lingam Massage can be used as a 
form of safer sex (when latex gloves are used) and is an 
excellent process to build trust and intimacy.  It is often 
used to help men heal from negative sexual conditioning and 
trauma.

Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it is 
often a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is to 
massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and 
Sacred Spot (the equivalent to the female G-spot), and 
allow the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not 
be used to. From this perspective both receiver and giver 
relax into the massage.

Men need to learn to RELAX and RECEIVE. Traditional 
sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented 
mode. The Lingam Massage allows the man to experience 
his softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from 
a non-traditional perspective.

PREPARATION:

Take a relaxing bath or shower. Take your time and breathe 
deeply. Conscious, relaxed breathing will take you out of 
your mental process and will get you more into your 
feelings. Relax your belly and let go of the tension that most 
of us hold there.

Go to the bathroom before beginning the massage. The best 
results occur when the bowels and bladder are empty.

Let go of your thoughts and connect with your partner 
through hugging, holding, eye gazing (looking into each 
other's eyes for an extended time), bringing both of you to a 
place of  relaxation and trust.

PROCEDURE:

Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows under his head 
so he can look up at his partner (giver). Place a pillow, 
covered with a towel, under his hips. His legs are to be 
spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or 
cushions under the knees will also help) and his genitals 
clearly exposed for the massage.

The giver sits cross-legged between the receivers' legs.

Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed 
breathing. Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, chest, 
nipples, etc., to get the receiver to relax. Remind the 
receiver to breathe deeply and to sink deeper into 
relaxation.

Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil (or water-based 
lubricant when using latex gloves) on the shaft of the 
Lingam and testicles. Begin gently massaging the testicles, 
taking care to not cause pain in this sensitive area. Massage 
the scrotum gently, causing it to relax. Massage the area 
above the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Massage the 
Perineum, the area between the testicles and anus. Take 
your time. You are giving a massage to an often neglected 
area of the body. 

Massage the shaft of the Lingam. Vary the speed and 
pressure. Gently squeeze the Lingam at the base with your 
right hand, pull UP and slide off and then alternate with 
your left hand. Take your time doing this, right, left, right, 
left, etc. Then, change the direction by starting the squeeze 
at the head of the Lingam/penis and then sliding DOWN and 
off. Again, alternate with right and left hands.

Massage the head of the Lingam as if you are using an 
orange juicer. Massage all around the head and shaft. In 
Tantra there are many nerve endings on the Lingam that 
correspond to other parts of the body. It is said many 
ailments can be cured by receiving a good Lingam Massage. 

NOTE: The Lingam may or may not go soft as you perform 
this technique. Do not worry if it doesn't get hard again. 
You will probably find that it will get hard, then go soft, get 
hard again, etc., which is a highly desirable Tantric 
experience, like riding a wave, bobbing up and down. 
Hardness and Softness are two ends of the pleasure 
spectrum.

If it appears that the receiver is going to ejaculate, back off, 
allowing the Lingam to soften a little before resuming the 
massage. Do this several times, coming close to ejaculation, 
and then backing off. Remember, the goal is not orgasm in 
and of itself. Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery 
and control by coming close to ejaculation and then backing 
off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is key here and will 
soften the urge to ejaculate. Eventually ejaculatory mastery 
will allow you to make love as long as you want and you 
can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen. 
Orgasm and ejaculation are two different responses that you 
can learn to separate. The result is a very expanded sex life.

Find and massage the male Sacred Spot. There are two 
ways to do this.

One is by finding the spot midway between the testicles and 
anus. There is a small indentation about the size of a pea or 
maybe larger. Be gentle and push inward. He will feel the 
pressure deep inside and it may be intensely painful at first. 
Eventually, as this area is worked on and softened, he will 
be able to expand his orgasms and master ejaculatory 
control. You can massage his Lingam with your right hand 
and massage his Sacred Spot with your left hand. Try 
pushing in on this spot when he nears ejaculation. It is aptly 
named the Million Dollar Point in Taoism.

The other way to access the Sacred Spot is through the 
anus. Many men, especially heterosexual men, are 
uncomfortable at first as a result of negative sexual 
conditioning. Be careful here and use lubrication. The key is 
to go slow and be very gentle. Make sure he is breathing as 
you slip a finger from your left hand into the anus about an 
inch or so. Then crook the finger back in a "come here" 
gesture. You will feel the prostate gland. Vary the pressure 
and speed of massage. He may want stimulation of the 
Lingam as you massage the Sacred Spot. Back off on the 
Lingam as he approaches orgasm and increase the pressure 
on the Sacred Spot.

Sometimes the man may have strong emotions come up 
during access to the Sacred Spot. He may cry and remember 
a traumatic event from his past. You, the giver, are in a 
place of trust and intimacy. Allow him to feel his emotions 
and be very loving, not trying to console or fix him, just let 
him feel whatever he needs to. Encourage him to scream, 
cry, moan, sob, if it feels appropriate. Be the best friend and 
healer he could have in that moment.

ENDING THE MASSAGE:

If he chooses to let go and ejaculate, encourage him to breathe
deeply during the orgasm. It will blow his mind, especially if
he has come close and held back at least SIX times before
ejaculating. Holding back six times charges up the sexual 
battery with tremendous energy. It is then his choice as 
to where he wants to send this energy -- out with their
ejaculate (the prevailing paradigm) or inward for
other uses (men who master ejaculation are able to
channel this energy into other areas of their being).

When he feels complete with the massage gently remove 
your hands and allow him to lie there quietly. You may want 
to snuggle up together or you can leave the room and let 
him drift off into a meditative state. Allow him to fully 
experience his childlike innocence and magnificent male 
beauty.